When she goes on a mission, she will go through the temple which means she will be wearing garments. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are. We had a long distant relationship for 3 years. That my heavenly father hates my decision to marry my husband. The thing is, even though no one else trusted my decision, I prayed about it daily for our entire relationship. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you. I agree, girls, it can be a challenge to find time together. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church.
As a budding feminist, I left the church in my teens. I see a future with him but I'm not sure whether I can handle it. Great payback for my support during residency and multiple moves. He is living with the health effects from working upwards of hrs a week. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons. If so, you have a chance. After reading all these comments I now know that life will be even harder when he will be in residency My boyfriend and I are getting engaged next month. I feel I am not appreciated and valued as a wife. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves. I am struggling with keeping our worlds overlapping.
I had no idea how hard it could get. I think nothing really prepared either of us for fellowship though. However, you might be lucky to not have the experience I did. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness. They even refrain from tea and coffee. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. There are plenty of marriages between Mormons and non-Mormons. As an atheist with Buddhist undertones who married a non-practicing, god-believing Mormon at the height of his questioning, I find this so interesting to me. There is rarely minute that goes by where I am not thinking about him in some way. The church can be a very cruel place for single people.
These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term. I do nearly all of the parenting fortunately we only have one child -- we both agree that this lifestyle is too demanding for more and find that my husband's crazy hours and the energy drain of the job make me yearn to connect with other wives that relate.
Sexually, risque and the such is essentially the same as baptists and fundamental Christians.