Female masturbation is often seen as a taboo subject. Despite research showing that women masturbate as frequently as men, it's still not a topic that all females openly discuss. The Swedes have even created a new term for female masturbation in an attempt to stop women from being put off talking about the topic by the usual male-associated words.
We spoke to women about their own experiences of masturbation and got some expert tips on how to make things work for you, including from Strawberry Siren, former Miss Burlesque Australia and the creator of the Pussy Play Masterclass, a workshop on the art of playing with yourself.
Understanding the different bits of your body is the first step towards successful stimulation. My advice would be to explore, get to know what things feel like, and if it feels good, keep going! To help us on our quest to become more familiar with our anatomy, Lisa has provided us with simple, straightforward definitions for some of our bodily bits from her book Love Your Lady Landscape. It includes the clitoris, labia lips, urethra and entrance to the vagina, and its opening is almond shaped.
It's the only organ of the body with the sole function of providing pleasure. Lisa also thinks getting to know your menstrual cycle is an important way of ensuring you get the most from the experience.
You may not feel the urge to masturbate during your pre-menstrual cycle, but the orgasms will actually be way better, even if they do take a bit longer. You may also want to press down and rub in a circular motion. Confused by the variety of animal-themed vibrators and neon dildos available online? Well, our girls think it's best to go organic. Lisa thinks that, though sex toys can be a good way to introduce newcomers to the self-pleasure game, it's best to avoid becoming dependent on them.
You want to be able to touch yourself, so that you can be playful and get to know the speed and feel you want. Then, while pressing down lightly, wiggle the fingers towards each other, squeezing and lifting the labia together between the two fingers. Get to know your clit "You're clitoris is awesome," says Lisa. As mentioned above, the clitoris is more than just the outer, bean-shaped part.
This makes it the powerhouse of pleasure. You may also want to use a small circular motion, depending on your preferences. It's important to enjoy the whole experience, rather than racing to the finish line. Lube can be particularly good for assisting in the arousal process. Give yourself the full experience by making time to be exploratory and playful. Catherine Murnane 12 February Share this:. Copy this link. This article contains adult themes. The only thing to do now is read on, and plan an early night.
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