As a budding feminist, I left the church in my teens. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, there's going to be major problems later on. When I taught GD we discussd the lessons. My 2 younger children are entering middle school soon. Next year we are getting married but I already see a tough life ahead of me. I only hate one thing in the planet, and that's the Mormon church. Going along with her cult might feel fine when it is just you in her, but if you have kids, it will be very different. Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. My parents, siblings and grandparents are all active members; as am I.
I just pray daily that no matter what we end up doing we are 30 min or less away from each other. The best advice I can give is stay true to yourself. I don't drive and we live far away from our family. Should we try to heed their counsel and marry in the Church. It means that before anything else, you have to be clear in saying that you want to date a Mormon girl. The man presides over everything. In fact, the church is designed to help people come unto Christ, who is the only one who can change our hearts and help us overcome ourselves to come back to him. Every school events, social gathering, especially weekend calls is making me sad. The point made was that a parallel can be drawn between interfaith and interracial marriages. Now that I am trying to MCAT study for at least 2 hours a day the pressure to find time together is really high.
Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. That being sais, just be honest. How else could you go through 8 years of schooling and 3 years of residency without losing your mind. My mom works in the medical profession, and it was always hard when she was on call or had to work late, but she definitely works hard. I think the most important thing is to bring up the issues as questions rather than points as why she's wrong. Anytime he is with me and "our" son he is on call, distracted or "needs" time to watch football and golf. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok. So i try and be supportive with cute texts and never asking him to call me or do anything, but it is hard not to feel resentful. Mormon girls are thirsting for strong, confident, masculine men. I too feel that I am becoming a mistress to his own career.
I do my best, I accepted him knowing the stress on his career, knowing that it isn't easy. I'm quite willing to take you at your word, but my guess is that academia had nothing to do with your ex being immature. I don't think we are going to end up being friends but I'll get over that.